This morning I soaked 6 pieces of grass, as in grass from the garden, a special type of grass from the garden though, in water. I drained the water and used a pestle and mortar to grind the strands of grass. I then put the ‘mush’ in to a small piece of muslin and squeezed a few drops of green liquid on to a teaspoon before drinking it. This is not the first crazy sounding thing I’ve done in my quest to get pregnant and stay pregnant and I’m sure it won’t be the last.
Before I continue, I want to point out that everything I have tried I believe in and truly trust is helping. It’s easy to say ‘I’m desperate I’ll try anything’, but there is no point in drinking ‘grass juice’ or any of the other things I’ve tried if you don’t believe it will work. I think that a lot of medicine whether it be western, tcm, Ayurvedic or other, is helped and hindered by the mental attitude of the patient.
When I started on my ttc (trying to conceive) journey in Feb 08 I went on the internet to have a look at what supplements I should be taking. Generally speaking the advice is the same, a multivitamin with folic acid is most popularly recommended. I went down to Boots and bought a His & Hers pronatal supplement for my husband and I. After a while of taking that and having no joy in getting pregnant I went to see a TCM (Traditional Chinese Medicine) doctor. For 5 months I drank foul tasting drinks made from powders which were mixed specially for me and I also had acupuncture once a week. I liked the acupuncture and I did feel different in myself, but ultimately I quite literally couldn’t stomach the drinks anymore and the cost was getting prohibitive. I was still taking the pronatal supplement.
Around about the same time I started seeing the TCM I started charting. Charting is a widely used fertility aid where you take your temperature every morning at the same time. You need to take it after at least 3 hours sleep and before you move, talk or anything. Your bbt (basal body temperature) changes at different parts of your cycle and by monitoring it you can see your cycle patterns. Your temperature is lower at the start of the cycle, but once you ovulate the corpus luteum (the follicle from which the egg was released) starts producing progesterone. The increase in progesterone in turn increases your bbt. If the egg has not been fetilised or implanted the corpus luteum breaks down, the progesterone levels drop and the lining of the womb sheds. You normally see a big temperature drop on the first day of your period. After a few months the idea is that you can start to see the pattern of when you ovulate allowing you to time intercourse correctly. There is a common assumption that you ovulate on cycle day 14. It’s not always so. I can ovulate anywhere between cycle day 16 and 22. The latter half of the cycle is more important, the period of time after you ovulate which is call the luteal phase. The LT is usually the same length no matter how long the first half of the cycle is.
In October last year I had a scan that showed I had polycystic ovaries. It was a crushing blow as I was told by my GP that it was very unlikely that I would conceive naturally. I was booked in to see a fertility specialist who prescribed Clomid. Clomid is a fertility drug used to encourage the body in to releasing an egg. Just before I was due to start taking it I found out I was pregnant though. I was still taking the pronatal supplement.
After my first miscarriage I searched online for magic cures to stop it happening again etc. I decided to start taking 50mg Vitamin B Complex which helps regulate your cycle, Agnus Castus which is widely known as the natural version of Clomid, Evening Primrose Oil to balance my hormones and I continued to take the pronatal supplement.
In July this year I suffered a second miscarriage. distraught though I was I continued with the charting and the B Complex, the Evening primrose oil and the pronatal supplement. Afterwards I felt so tired and ill all the time that I even went to my doctor to see if something was wrong with me. Nothing was in her eyes, I was just getting over a miscarriage. My boss’ wife organised for me to have a treatment with Gowri Motha, the founder of the Gentle Birth Method. I didn’t know what to expect when I went there, all my boss’ wife had told me was that Gowri changed her life after her miscarriages. I stripped down to my underwear and sat on a stool. She massaged my back using olive oil which is part of Creative Healing. As she massaged me she spoke about my body and I started visualising everything that was happening within it. Her use of positive affirmations made me feel better almost immediately. After the back I lay down and the did a ‘female treatment’ which is the same kind of massage, but on the body. Working on draining the excess fluid and increasing circulation. At the end of the session she gave me 2 more supplements to take Ambrotose and Shatavari. I left feeling better than I had felt in months. A feeling which has remained to this day.
I’ve been seeing Gowri or a member of her team almost every week since that first appointment. The treatments range from reflexology to creative healing to cranial. Along the way Gowri has given me another supplement, Mini G, to help my stress levels. I was also advised to reduce wheat and dairy from my diet too, with one of her team members, Seema, giving me some alternative recipes. More recently I have been told to take warm (not hot) baths with 1/2 pint of milk and a few drops of lavender in it. It is an incredibly relaxing experience! One cycle I even tried self administered (Gowri gave me the kit) olive oil enemas.
I don’t believe that there is one magic cure or aid to help me get pregnant and stay pregnant, but I do believe that a combination of eveything I have mentioned above has helped me prepare my body as best as possible for the pregnancy that will happen. I feel so much better than I did and I have to believe that its because of everything I’m doing and taking.
Before you rush out and raid your lawn clippings or run a lavender milk bath please bare in mind that everything that has been recommended to me is taillored to my specific body type and requirements. What works for me may not work for you.